living the life

Last Friday was my husband’s last day as an OB-Gyn resident.  And I don’t mean in the he’s-finished-headed-to-a-real-job kind of way.  In the he-quit kind of way.  Yep.

He doesn’t have any prospects for another job yet, despite sending in multiple applications, and so aside from our rental, we have no income at the moment.  I should be scared and anxious.  Instead I’ve been feeling kind of… free.

We’re the kind of people who binge-watch HGTV.  Watching the families on there move to paradise to live the life of their dreams is so inspiring.  I’ve been doing a lot of research lately about small business and multiple income streams and living an untraditional life free from the constraints of a 9-5 job (or any job, for that matter).  And now we’re there, and in spite of losing some measure of security not to mention any pretense of alone time, it’s kind of good.  In an every-day-is-Saturday kind of way.

I’ve recently launched an Amazon business, which is still in the hole, but I’ve got dreams.  He’s looking into becoming a real estate agent part-time, until he lands a job and maybe even after.

I’m not going to lie: I do miss the security of having money rolling in every two weeks, and especially insurance, which we’re still trying to figure out.  I definitely miss quiet(er) mornings and days of setting the schedule for myself and my daughter with no one else’s input.  But things are getting fixed and painted.  I have help with said daughter, which is awesome.  Maybe I have less privacy, but I’ve also gained family time and maybe some extra me-time, after all.

I’m not sure where our lives are headed, but I’m full of hope that it’s somewhere good.  Somewhere with more abundant time, more abundant freedom, and hopefully (eventually) more abundant income.  We’ll get there.

My only regret is that we didn’t come to this place sooner.  That we were taught – as America tends to teach its children – that a college education leading to full-time work is the only way to survive and get ahead.

I want something more for my child.  I think I’ll focus on this wisdom:

“You have brains in your head.  You have feet in your shoes  You can steer yourself any direction you choose.”

Gotta love Dr. Suess.  It took a while, but we’re there now.  And we’re going to keep going – and growing – to someplace even better.

awesome resources for living optimally in 2017

It’s that time of the year again: we’re all setting “resolutions” and praying that we’ll carry them beyond the next few weeks.  If you’re like I was for the past several years, you’ll probably (mostly) fail.

But I’m hoping that this year will be different for both of us, and the going wisdom is that the key to success is to forgo making resolutions in favor of establishing goals.  Goals that are specific and measurable.  Goals with action plans, and even deadlines.

I’ve managed to script eight distinct goals for myself over the past month thanks, in part, to some great resources I chose to prescribe to in 2016.  While not all of these resources will be helpful for everyone, I sincerely hope you find among them something new and relevant to guide you along your path.

Here’s to new goals, new efforts, many blessings, and success!

1. Michael Hyatt is a bestselling author and personal mentor.  I stumbled across his work quite recently via several other blogs I follow.  He offers a podcast and an email newsletter along with several other amazing free resources, and though I haven’t yet been able to spring for any of the paid ones, I’m sure they’re well worth the expense.  I attended his free goal-setting webinar back in December and it’s been tremendously helpful in my prep for a successful 2017.

You can find his website – and tons of free resources – HERE.

2. Kayse Pratt’s website, Intentional Moms ~ Kayse is a sweet, Godly, and genuine woman who writes about the day to day struggles of being a wife, mother, and Christian.  This year I’m using her Organized Life Planner, and I love it so far!  It’s such a unique resource for managing whatever is going on in my life, and it gives me space and guidance to prioritize, establish a focus, keep track of daily habits, set and plan goals, etc.  Truly one-of-a-kind.  I’m also following her Scripture Study Plan for the year, and I’m really excited for this new opportunity to grow closer to God.  Check her out – she has an email list, some awesome free resources and courses, and also several that are very reasonably priced.

3. James Clear writes all about improving your life.  I’ve been on his mailing list for over a year now, and I appreciate that he doesn’t bombard his subscribers with emails – you’ll get one a week or less after initially signing up.  His articles are some of the most well-researched I’ve come across.  Some are lengthy, but all are highly readable and worthy of your time.  Past articles and several other resources are available on his website, including an extensive reading list that, in my opinion, is pretty top-notch.  Definitely a guy worth following!  You can find him HERE.

4. Medium is a website where anyone can submit articles on pretty much any topic.  Mostly, these are opinion pieces on life, politics, self-improvement, etc.  Although I subscribe to some more standard news sites, I find Medium refreshing for the variety and realism it provides.  As with many similar websites, you can sign up for a conglomerate newsletter that recommends articles on topics of your choice.

5. Bullet Journal ~ If you’ve not heard of a bullet journal (bujo) before, you need to check. it. out.  It’s the ultimate customizable planning/logging system that can be as simple or complicated, expensive or cheap, pretty or basic as you want to make it.  I’m in love with this concept and have used it successfully.  While I have decided to utilize an actual planner for 2017 (thanks to Kayse Pratt!), I’m still using my bullet journal to keep all of my thoughts/lists/notes/etc. organized easily in one place.  CHECK IT OUT.  Also google it, because there’s so much more than this!

5 ways to get the most out of your time

Time management is one of those things I am constantly striving to improve.  For one thing, I’m very passionate about planning – far more so than I am about the actual doing, to tell the truth.  Case in point: this blog.  I’d like to post two, three times a week, and I have those posts all plotted out.  But so far I’ve managed only about one weekly post.  Like everyone else, I’m a work-in-progress, and hopefully going to improve that record soon.

Time management is one of many things I think most of us will never truly perfect, and to some extent, we all have to learn to live with that.  More often than not unexpected things happen, we just feel lazy, or our priorities change.  But that doesn’t mean we can’t do better.  To that end, here are some of the best tips I’ve picked up over years of striving for improvement, as well as a few things I’ve figured out for myself.

1. Personalize your prioritization

I’m not going to go on about the benefits of prioritizing in and of itself, but I think it’s important to recognize that just like every individual learns differently, different people need to prioritize differently, too.  For some, getting smaller tasks out of the way is more beneficial, but others might do best to tackle larger, more daunting projects first.  Sometimes figuring out what methods are suited to you takes some trial and error.  For instance, I love the idea of assigning a chore to each day of the week, but in practice, I’ve found it’s better to lump chores into one or two days, because I gain energy from one activity that helps me to tackle another – even those I find least pleasant.

I also like the prioritization method Stephen Covey preaches in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.  He talks about the necessity of recognizing the difference between tasks that are important versus those that are urgent.  Most people spend too much time on urgent tasks (such as answering the phone,) Covey claims, when it’s more effective to focus on those that have high importance.  Of course, what’s most important in our lives is a question each individual must answer for themselves.

2. Give yourself some credit

It sounds too simplistic, but I’ve found that feeling good and feeling good about myself lead to greater accomplishment.  To be more specific, if my productivity is good one day – or even for one hour – I feel motivated to tackle even more.  In order to capitalize on that, I don’t just make to-do lists.  I make lists of things I’ve done.

I almost never finish my entire to-do list by the end of each day, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t accomplished a lot.  Sometimes I’ll do different things, or extra things.  Sometimes I do something I put on the list for the next day just because I felt like it, or felt like getting it out of the way.  And there are always little things we do automatically that go unacknowledged.  I don’t put feeding, clothing, reading to, and playing with my daughter on my to-do list, but it’s a big part of my day, and the most important part!

Take some time at the end of each day to acknowledge what you’ve accomplished, and I bet you’ll find yourself feeling much better about your productivity than if you merely counted the number of items you did (or didn’t) do on your list.

3. Let go of excuses

“There’s no way I’ll get anything done in 15 minutes.”  “Right after I beat the next level on ____.”  “I’m just too tired today after dealing with X.”  Sound familiar?  These are only a few of the things I tell myself on a fairly regular basis to avoid doing tedious, unpleasant things like vacuuming or making a phone call or sometimes even working on a post for this blog.  But at the end of the day, it feels much worse to have accomplished so little (and have extra to do the next day) than it would to push through and get some things done.

One of the most helpful things I learned while working in mental health was the maxim do the next right thing.  Just ask yourself: What’s the most important thing I could be doing right now?  Decide to see how much you can accomplish in whatever time you have, and you’ll be surprised at how much mileage you achieve.

4. Make use of dead time

I talked about this a little in a past post on parenthood, but I think everyone can benefit from being aware of ways to squeeze more use out of periods of dead time – those pesky minutes we all spend waiting in lines or making long commutes, for example.  Maybe you do need that time to unwind and do nothing – or play a mindless game on your phone – and that’s absolutely valid.  But if you’re feeling up to it and circumstances permit, it’s often possible to knock out a few emails or finally listen to that book (or lecture!) on tape.

5. Be ready with some motivation

It sounds ridiculous, but when it comes time to de-clutter a room, I still hear that “clean up, clean up, everybody everywhere…” song from Barney in my head.  Yes, the big purple dinosaur.  But the fact of the matter is, that works for me.  That idea I first learned as a child of challenging myself to get as much done as quickly as possible is still one of the best ways I can motivate myself to clean.

What motivates you to achieve your goals?  Maybe it’s pictures – mental or physical – of what you ultimately hope to achieve.  Maybe it’s the dream of success, or some upbeat music that puts you in the mood.  Maybe you need to push through a little harder, or maybe it’s time to step back and take a break.  Whatever it is, having a few personalized tricks to pull out of your proverbial hat when you’re tired or overwrought or just not feeling it is absolutely essential.

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Whether you find these tips useful or not – and I really hope you do! – I hope this post has inspired you to take a closer look at how you’re spending your time and find ways to make sure those minutes are making you happier and more productive 🙂

What I’ve Been Reading: Uprooted

I have a couple nonfiction books I need to write about soon, but this novel was so engaging I just had to write about it first!

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I stumbled across Uprooted by mistake while searching for the author of the last novel I reviewed, Jephte’s Daughter – both authors share the name Naomi.  Although it wasn’t at all what I was looking for at the time, the cover intrigued me enough to read about it further, and the summary was so interesting I immediately put it on hold.  By the time it was automatically checked out to me, I couldn’t recall the book at all, but I wasn’t reading any other fiction at the time so I dived right in with no expectations.  It’s rare for a fiction book to appeal to me quickly – I tend to need time to get to know the characters in order to be hooked – but this fantasy novel had me engaged from the very first chapter.

What’s It About?

Although this is not a young-adult novel, Uprooted follows the story of a seventeen-year-old girl named Agnieszka.  She lives in a small village that’s under the protection of the Dragon, a mysterious wizard who is notorious for claiming a girl from the villages every ten years.  Everyone Agnieszka knows expects her best friend, Kasia, to be the one chosen, and all are surprised when it’s Agnieszka herself instead.  The Dragon is not the rapist Agnieszka expects, but he is cold, insulting, and unapproachable.  He begins to teach Agniezska magic to both their distaste, which proves to be especially useful when the wicked wood that threatens to overtake the land and all its people launches a fierce battle against their kingdom.

Three Things I Liked About It:

  1. The antagonist of this novel isn’t a person, it’s a forest.  “The wood” is mysterious and intriguing and genuinely creepy, and it’s story – which you learn towards the end of the novel – sets everything in a new light.
  2. This is one of the most unique fantasy novels I’ve ever read.  This isn’t some variation on the typical fantastical fare: no actual dragons, no elves or giants or mermaids or dwarves.  It’s something entirely different, and refreshingly so.
  3. There is romance here, but it’s my favorite kind: a sprinkle of salt to flavor the story rather than a main ingredient.

What I Didn’t Like:

The characters might have been further developed.  For instance, the Dragon is indubitably one of the most intriguing characters of the novel because he’s rude, and irredeemably so.  I just wanted to know more about why.  Unlike many books I enjoy, this book is less heavy on character development and relationships and focuses more on plot, with characterization being executed in a subtle way that still works somehow.  The book would have been ridiculously long if these details were drawn out any more than they were, but it might have added an extra something.

Conclusion:

If you’re in the mood for something engaging and fast-paced and entirely original, this is the book for you.  There’s something stylistically about this novel that I really admire – it’s very different from the way I write, but wholeheartedly wonderful.  If you enjoy fantasy at all, you want to give this one a read.

About The Author:

After reading her three-paragraph author bio (as well as the novel itself,) I’m a fan of Naomi Novik.  This woman is a queen of geeks.  She’s involved in the Organization for Transformative Works – which is responsible for the Archive of Our Own among other things – and writes fanfiction in addition to original work.  Plus she has a daughter named Evidence, which is maybe the coolest name ever.  Ms. Novik is most famous for an earlier fantasy series containing eight books, the Temeraire series.

Healthier Microwave Chocolate Chip Cookie

When I first discovered this single-serving microwave chocolate chip cookie, I immediately began experimenting with substitutions to try to make it healthier.  Because eating a huge chocolate chip cookie is great, but when that cookie is close to guiltless?  That’s my personal idea of heaven 🙂

For me, healthy is less about reducing calories and more about using ingredients that are nutritious and not merely empty calories.  Of course, you still want to maintain the integrity of what you’re making – it has to taste good, have a reasonably pleasant texture, be recognizable as what it is, etc.  I tend to have some go-to solutions for making substitutions in desserts like this, and they didn’t fail me here.  I substituted nut butter for the fat, because it contains fat as well but a healthier kind and also adds nutrients and protein.  I subbed out half the sugar for stevia.  After much trial and error, SweetLeaf is my stevia brand of choice.  One packet is only equivalent to 2 teaspoons of sugar, but that’s okay because I don’t mind things a little less sweet.

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I almost never eliminate sugar completely, both because it lends to a better flavor and because it does a lot in baking besides merely making things sweet.  Finally, I used white whole wheat flour in place of all-purpose flour.  White whole wheat flour is my go-to: I don’t even keep standard all-purpose flour in my kitchen.

You can boost the nutritional value even more by choosing dark chocolate chips over milk or semi-sweet and adding nuts.  If reducing calories is one of your goals, try subbing some of the flour for quick oats (I did this once for one tablespoon, and it turned out well) and/or choosing a lower-calorie milk, such as unsweetened almond milk – another of my baking staples!

The cookie I photographed is made with almond butter, but if you don’t care for almond butter or want the most authentic flavor, I recommending using peanut butter OR half butter/half nut butter.  However, be aware that what you choose could potentially require you to adjust other ingredients.  When I made this cookie with natural peanut butter (no butter), the dough did not come together, and I had to add a little extra milk until it did.  But the results were still super yummy.  You might have to do the same to account for differences in the consistency of the nut butter – some have added oil (and sugar,) some are thicker or runnier.

If you want to splurge for the full-calorie version from which this recipe is adapted, check it out here!  I can vouch for the stellar results.

Ingredients:

1 tablespoon nut butter OR 1/2 tablespoon nut butter + 1/2 tablespoon butter

1 tablespoon brown sugar

pinch of salt

stevia to equal about 1 tablespoon sugar, or 1 tablespoon additional sugar

2 teaspoons milk (+ up to 2 teaspoons more)

1/8 teaspoon vanilla extract

3 tablespoons white whole wheat flour

1-2 tablespoons chocolate chips

Method:

In a small bowl, microwave the nut butter and/or butter until melted (about 60 seconds).  Stir in the the sugar, stevia, and salt.  The mixture might already be very thick, especially if you’re using all nut butter.

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Stir in the milk and vanilla until the mixture is consistent.

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Stir in the flour.  If the dough isn’t coming together and the mixture is dry, add more milk little by little.  Mine looked something like this:

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Finally, stir in the chocolate chips.

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Dump the dough in the middle of a microwavable plate and press it into the shape of a cookie, making sure the edges are a little thinner than the middle.  DO NOT skip this step – I first baked this recipe right in the bowl, so I can vouch that it’s much better and more authentic if you take the time, trouble, and extra dish to form a cookie shape.

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Microwave the cookie for about a minute, adjusting the power of your microwave to reach about 700-900 watts, depending on how done you like your cookies.  I have a 1250 watt microwave, so I use 70% power (875 watts).

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Devour, preferably with milk.

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